Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is one of the most ignorant chapter of our society. People just don’t want talk on this topic because according to general thinking this matter is to private. Domestic violence is not even considered as a crime because according to traditional ideology partners have complete right on their partner as if they are their private property. Not only women are victims of Domestic Violence but mostly women are the one who face it.

I would like to share a rare type of Domestic violence, that have been witnessed. It is disgusting and traumatizing. About 4 years ago, a woman with her 12 year old son shifted in a small house. She was a divorced and a single parent. Her brothers were supporting her, a small amount also came from a piece of land she owned. The lady had been in an extremely abusive marriage. Her husband was a psychopath who used to beat her with a steel rod.

Her in_laws were just as worse and encourage their son. Her husband forced her to ask her brothers for money and that was how their house expenses were regulated. She had 3 sons. Her husband refused to provide basic necessities. Didn’t get them any vaccines. Education was definitely not important to him. He was just an extremely horrible husband and an even worse father who made their lives a living a hell.

The woman some how spent 16 years with the same man. She was from a traditional family and obviously, divorce was not an option. Her eldest son, now 15, was diagnosed with a Atrial Septal Defect. Which is commonly known as a Hole in the heart.

The treatment was very expensive and could only be treated by high profile Cardiologists of Lahore and Karachi. Her Husband totally refused to cooperate and said, he really didn’t care about his son. Her in laws blamed her for giving birth to a sick child. The lady decided to take the matter to her own parents who agreed to provide the financial help but refused to accompany to Lahore as it would pull a bad social impression.

She all alone traveled and took the misery. Went to Hospitals, stayed on footpaths all for her son. Sadly, the doctors claimed it was too late, and her son passed away after 70 days of treatment.

Her horrible husband refused to pay any amounts for his burial and she had to ask her family once again. Her brother in law , grasped half the money and claimed it got used up. Her middle child, could not take the sorrow very well, and was in severe Trauma after the death of his brother.

The boy got weak. Her mother couldn’t afford any more doctors and decided to take him to local Hakeems. The hakeem messed up every thing and gave him some wrong medicines. Just after 15 days of her first son”s death , her second son passed away. Her husband blamed it all on her and very angrily established that he would revenge the death of his son.

He tried to attack her with Acid at midnight, she luckily escaped and called the police on him. Now, her family had no choice , but to get her divorce. She was now a divorce and shifted back to her city. Her brother got her a house away, to save themselves the embarrassment. The lady shifted to his new place with her son… obviously now, very strong and competent. She took a small job, got her son admitted to a school and things started to move for the better. Until one day, when her son refused to go to school. He was 16, had a bad company and was secretly in touch with his father and paternal family who influenced him into believing that her mother was a bad character.

The son was doing drugs. Asked his mother to increase the pocket money, upon receiving a light denial, he slapped his mother across the face and said,

” Tumhe mere baap nay seedha rakha tha, tum isi laik ho”

Ever since then, he had been beating his mother mercilessly. Made her cut all contacts with her family and sell her land all for his supply of drugs.

This boy, mentally sick, used to beat his mother with a steel rod. If someone from the mohalla confronted him about about it, he called him his ” Maa ka yaar ” and was just more cruel. Two days ago, her mother aged 56 passed away, after he hit her with rod in the head.

She laid on the floor and was not attended for 12 hours after which she passed away. Her son is nowhere to be found. People from neighboring and her own family arranged her burial.

Who to blame, What went wrong. When exactly did the son forget she was his mother. Please please Do Not ignore domestic violence. Report it the very first time you experience or witness it, don’t let it result into deaths. Don’t fall prey to social pressure like her and her family, don’t let a toxic man take a life.

!!!!!!!STAY SAFE AND STAY HAPPY!!!!!!!